D.R.Bain
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hottubkid wrote:I want to take two months next summer and do the upper western usa. DW says maybe a month. I told her she could fly back anytime she wants but no she says she doesn't want to do that. I think I am leaving the day after Mothers day next summer. Wish me luck because I have no Idea what's going to happen but I'm 65 and am thinking if I don't do it now I won't do it. Any comments are welcome
Where are your kids or grandkids? If they still live around the homestead then I can understand her reluctance to go. Any granddaughters
old enough to go with you? But not too young or too old. Take them and you could try to make the trip a little about the grandkid and the wife could dote over her?
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FuzzyKnight
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Sounds kinda like a power play to me!! It would be C ya!!!
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JTHarley
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My wife and I always take a 6-8 week trip in the winter. She can tell that at times, I need to get away and she doesn't really want to. She encourages me to take the MH on a "short" trip by myself to clear my head. Take the dog she says and just drive to a destination.....what a sweetheart!
I would not consider taking a trip longer than 5-7 days without her. She makes travel fun and she IS my best friend.
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janechucknicodemus
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JTHarley wrote:My wife and I always take a 6-8 week trip in the winter. She can tell that at times, I need to get away and she doesn't really want to. She encourages me to take the MH on a "short" trip by myself to clear my head. Take the dog she says and just drive to a destination.....what a sweetheart!
I would not consider taking a trip longer than 5-7 days without her. She makes travel fun and she IS my best friend.
JT
Hey Am Track has some great deals, and there are cruises up in the San Juans in Washington State to Alaska. A few weeks and fly home.
My bud and I have been together 51 years and counting, what ever happens it is discussed. Now I want kayaks, she is baulking "What do I do''>?
We just returned form a 9200 mile 2.5 month trip and looking for more. Alaska is next year, Pop up Chalet Trailer.
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EndeavorV10
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Bounder Billy wrote:Thanks for all the replies, and now I shall try to provide more information in response to your answers:
1. We are both in good health, but that is part of my dilemma. We all know that at our age, health problems could arise at any time, and that could be the end of RV travel, or any travel.
2. I have tried to get the DW to go to spend a few weeks in some of the beautiful campgrounds here in Colorado, but so far no success.
3. Part of my frustration is that on Saturday, the DW sat here reading the latest edition of Sunset magazine and kept saying, “This would be a nice place to visit!” Of course, my reply was “All we have to do is to put some food in the RV and go.” That got a few grunts but not much more.
Let’s see, Dear Abby, I think we have a failure to communicate! FIC (Frustrated in Colorado)
FIC  ,
Honestly, she sounds like she has gotten tired of the RV. Have you tried asking why she is tired of RV'ing? Perhaps take some of the roles she is providing on so she can relax reading her sunset magazine while in the RV?
When my wife is making meals I always try to help but always seem to just get in the way. She loves to RV for now so if this pleases her I shut up and do other things like vacuum, clean bathroom and dust things.
Plus I do all of the outside stuff, I figure things aren't always 50/50, how can they be, somebody is always going to be doing more than the other. Difference with us is I try to sway this in my direction so she knows I care enough to make the effort.
Now I have a different problem, she begs me to relax when we are at campgrounds. I have trouble just sitting around... anyway try letting her know that she doesn't have to be the one doing everything and see if that changes her mind. There has to be a reason for her not wanting to travel via RV anymore.
I don't mean to assume that she does everything, just offering an opinion and I hope she comes around.
Good luck.
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AlbertaCruiser
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I agree that sometimes RVing isn't what some people really want to do for long stretches of time. Obviously you're an RV enthusiast so that's why you're on RV.net, but for other people, they prefer a different lifestyle sometimes.
Maybe consider going on a cruise for a week somewhere nice instead if she likes to be pampered. RVing I find takes a lot of work! Cooking, cleaning, laundry, etc isn't that great of a holiday! I like the open road, exploring new places, and camping in some beautiful places, but there is that other "work" side of it which your spouse might not enjoy.
See what the DW would like to do instead, and then see if she's willing to maybe do some shorter trips in the RV like for a week or something as a compromise.
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RicJones
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One thing that hasn't been mentioned is meds.
I have bad knees and was on Celebrex for years, then was switched over to Voltren. I found myself wanting to do less and less. I enjoy off roading and it got to the point I didn't even want to do that. I just thought I was getting old. After about a year on it I fount that if I did one chore a day it was about all I could handle. One day my prescription ran out and the Dr. said he had to see me before refilling it, so I dug out some of the Celebrex I had and took it. The next day I mowed the lawn and washed 2 cars and felt good. At the end of the day I looked back on all that I did and wondered where all the energy came from then realized it might be the change in medicine. I watched how I felt and a week later when I saw the Dr. he changed the prescription. I now find myself more interested in doing things where on the other med I didn't want to get off the couch. This may not be DW's problem but something to consider.
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sowego wrote:From your latest response about her response to your statement about going to those places she saw in the magazine...I'd say she wants to travel but not in the motorhome... If that is the case you'll have to decide whether to go out alone and see if she gets the point you can go have fun on your own or...change your travel lifestyle.
After reading 10 pages this is also what I hear her saying. I feel for you. Depending on how strong you feel your relationship is depends on what you do. Sell the RV and hotel it with her, or travel without her in the RV and let her go to these over priced places on her own. How important is it that you RV or is the travel (sightseeing) the most important no matter how you get there? It is now your move.
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AlbertaCruiser
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How about a compromise and you go in the RV to the destination and she can fly in later to stay in the RV or in a hotel. That way you both can be together in the same vacation spot, and both of you can travel the way you want? If you have a toad vehicle, you can go pick her up and go on some "dates" to rekindle the fires so to speak.
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I am one of the lucky guys. What attracted me to my wife was she loved adventure and loved to travel. I married her before she got away. I feel sorry for people who married someone with opposite interest.
We traveled as often as we could, even three day weekends. When we were 54 and 49 we decided to quit working and go fulltime and that was the best decision we ever made. Oh, I have always done all the cooking since we got married. I can count on my fingers the number of meals Linda has cooked and I don't need my thumbs.
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