SARGUY
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Why was a fourteen year old out at ten o clock at night in the first place.His parents are to blame here for lack of parental supervision.Its Ten o clock do you know where your kids are? you should!
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StlHeadake
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C'mon guys and gals. You REALLY want me to believe that when YOU were 14 you were snuggled in your bed with your favorite blanky by 10pm? I don't believe it. Regardless of what you were doing, you know that you were outside playing. We played hide and go seek, among many others. Heck we hopped the fence and swam at the neighbors pool all the time. We occasionally rang doorbells and ran as the 'miscreants' in the article did.
Does that make my parents bad parents? I don't think so, but I suppose there are plenty out there who would disagree. I'm just the product of horrible parenting.
We live in different times. Much has changed. In the 'good ole days' folks were REQUIRED to use common sense. That is gone now. We yes WE have legislated common sense out of here.
I'm fairly certain that this 'concerned parent' wanted to make a point to the kids; and I'll bet he did. The point is where's the harm? Was it worth all the hassle? The attorney's, the charges, all of that? They rang the dang doorbell. It's not like they were breaking in.
I don't think the 'system' is broke. I think 'we' ask too much of the system!
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Liriope
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The bad parenting was not that kids ring door bells or swim in the neighbors pool. I agree many of us have done that and similar things but after 10pm? The bad parenting is when the neighbor tackles you to stop it, your parent, press charges against this person because you got a cut lip and scratches on your elbow instead of letting it be a lesson to you. That is the bad parenting part.
My little Johnny is perfect and doing nothing that other kids have done and you hurt my little Johnny. Instead of, telling little Johnny that these kinds of things can happen when you mess with and possible scare adults and their family "after 10pm at night". The bad parenting is missing an opportunity to teach your kid a valuable lesson as opposed to supporting him when he was clearly in the wrong. Sorry, that is IMHO "bad parenting".
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Jarlaxle
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My wife's father actually tried locking her in her second-floor bedroom at night.
There was a tree near the window, about a 5' leap...and even now, she climbs like a cat.
I was usually in by 10pm, because I was generally up early in the morning for school or work.
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ArkieVet
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As a teenager, the only time I was out after 10PM was for a school or church sponsored event. Otherwise, I was usually in bed by then, worn out from working on our truck farm, and tending the cattle and hogs that my parents had. During the summer, I still did my home chores and either hauled hay, worked in a local peach orchard, as an electrician's helper, as a plumber's helper, as a roofer's helper, caught (and loaded) chickens for Tyson Foods (at night, between day jobs), worked in timber, etc., etc., etc. If I got in trouble at school, I was paddled by the principal. I got worse, if I got in trouble at home. In short, I was raised to be responsible for my own actions, and to contribute to the community.
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TankerDude
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ArkieVet wrote:As a teenager, the only time I was out after 10PM was for a school or church sponsored event. Otherwise, I was usually in bed by then, worn out from working on our truck farm, and tending the cattle and hogs that my parents had. During the summer, I still did my home chores and either hauled hay, worked in a local peach orchard, as an electrician's helper, as a plumber's helper, as a roofer's helper, caught (and loaded) chickens for Tyson Foods (at night, between day jobs), worked in timber, etc., etc., etc. If I got in trouble at school, I was paddled by the principal. I got worse, if I got in trouble at home. In short, I was raised to be responsible for my own actions, and to contribute to the community.
Amen to that. I agree 110%. I was raised exactly the same way.
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sirdrakejr
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Me too. AND it NEVER occurred to me to try to climb out a window or sneak out. I just knew I would be found out and things would go downhill from there.
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Skid Row Joe
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sirdrakejr wrote:Me too. AND it NEVER occurred to me to try to climb out a window or sneak out. I just knew I would be found out and things would go downhill from there.
Frank Frank, me neither.
My Mother and Father were very good parents and were obeyed by me the best I could. They were devoted to, and or provided for our family until they each died. They didn't have to lock me in my room to get me to obey them either...and jumping out of a second story window never crossed my mind either.
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sirdrakejr
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I started working when I was eleven years old. From that time until I married, I always paid "room & board" to help my parents feed me. I ate a lot! I was never sorry that I did and my father told me later in life that he appreciated it. That made it all worth while! Does any one do that any more?
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MFinCA
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I would be extremely careful about confronting anyone. About 20 years ago on the day my father died, I needed to deliver a life insurance policy to a customer at 7:30 PM. I arrived in front of their house a little early, and made some phone calls to let friends know about my dad.
I then went to the house and delivered the policy. I then took a few days off to take care of the arrangements.
About 2 years later, a father waiting in his car at about that same spot and time for his wife and daugther had several teenagers start rocking his car and one jummped on his hood. He got out of the car and confronted them. A 12-year old boy stabbed the father to death with a knife.
Up to that point, I would have probably confronted them as well. Now I think that I would simply drive away and call the police.
In this day and age, people bring guns and knives to a fight that used to be settled by fists.
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